Killing 2 Birds With 1 Stone

Sorry there has been so much time between posts. I have been so busy lately between school and my family... 

You may call this embarrassing, I call it truth. Some may say it's ridiculous, I say it's necessary. It may even be laughed at, but I stand by it. 

This is a deal that me and two of my best friends made with each other tonight. A deal to not text guys first this week. As silly as it does in fact sound, how many girls near about blow up a guys phone everyday? What's even worse, is that sometimes girls do it without " a right"... Meaning they aren't in a relationship with the guy. Just like anything, texting is a habit. Texting first is a habit. When our little minds begin to tell ourselves that it's okay, we continuously do it, even though we may be annoying the stuffings out of the person on the other end of the line. 

You see, growing up, all of our mama's and maybe even Daddy's probably encouraged us to "make him chase you", "make him text you", "make him come see you", but yet, somewhere along the way, we lose sight of those instructions and our minds begin to think the opposite is true. (Guilty). 

Though we can't in fact totally block guys out and sometimes it is totally necessary to text one first, this is and should not become a way of doing things, for us girls. I do not think we are made to be the ones that do the chasing but rather we should be chased, or better, we should be pursued. Pursued in such a way that we never have to even worry about texting him to see what he's doing because he has already told us, pursued in such a way that we don't have to wonder if he "likes" us because he is honest enough to tell us... You see the point? We, as girls, should not be the leader. God Himself intended and still intends for men to be the leaders, more importantly the spiritual leaders of households and of relationships. 

So, if you're like me, maybe you need a deal and a contract similar to the one below to get you through at least one week of being "not in control" and learning how to be patient. I'm here to tell you that it's okay and perfectly good that you do so, FOR YOURSELF. After all, no one wants to be the annoying girl he and his buddies laugh about, right? 

Another plus: my contract happens to be killing two birds with one stone because it also entails a deal for Friday night. Since we are dieting in the midst of all of this, we are rewarding ourselves with a milkshake with the understanding that we have not texted or contacted a "guy of interest" this entire week. 

Here's to being pursued rather than doing the pursuing! 

Blessings, y'all!